About Unsaid Gifts

Unsaid Gifts is a free website where you practice what to say to the people you love. You watch a short scene with a partner, a parent, a sibling or a friend, pick what you would say, and see how they feel.

Unsaid Gifts is run by Ergyn P. Contact: support@unsaidgifts.com

Why it exists

Most of us have a conversation we keep putting off: an apology, a kind no, someone's good news we want to meet well. In a 2026 study of more than 1,800 adults, 80% had a difficult conversation coming up that week. People who spent about eight minutes preparing were more likely to actually have it: 65% did within a week, against 59% of people who didn't prepare.

Source: Maheshka, Folk and Dunn, Social Psychological and Personality Science, 2026.

Unsaid Gifts is that preparation, for the people closest to you. You practice alone. Nobody else has to sign up, and the other person never knows.

The people in the scenes react the way people really do. A reply that brushes past them gets a cooler answer. They aren't written to agree with you.

The research it stands on

Every scene teaches one skill and names the research behind it. You can read the source on each scene's start screen.

From the work of Barbara Fredrickson: enjoy it together; slow the good moment down; tell them what it meant.
From the work of Brené Brown: let their care in.
From the work of Dale Carnegie and Arthur Aron: be curious about them.
From the work of Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila Heen: own your part; say your limit early; say what's happening in you.
From the work of Gail Jefferson: let the quiet be.
From the work of John Gottman: bring it up gently; come back in gently; say you're trying to fix it; stop keeping score.
From the work of Marshall Rosenberg: name the feeling; say back what they feel; name how it hit them; say no kindly; ask for what you need; say no and stay close.
From the work of Shelly Gable: get excited with them; make their good news bigger; let your face match theirs; take the compliment.
From the work of Stephen Porges: pause before you answer; breathe, then answer; let them just be there.
From the work of Tara Brach: let them see you feel it.
From the work of William R. Miller and Arthur Aron: ask a question that opens up.

See all the scenes, by skill and by who they're with

What it isn't

Unsaid Gifts is practice. It isn't therapy, and it isn't crisis support. If you need help now, the help page lists free, confidential lines you can call or text.

Your privacy

There are no accounts, no sign-in, no cookies and no analytics. What you do stays in your browser. The privacy page lists every piece of data.